Guy-Talk: How to Handle a Woman


Lee Sumner
Certified Professional Coach

for inspiration, strategies, and results

September 2006

Vol. III - Issue 9

Words of Wisdom

"What Women Want: To be loved, to be listened to, to be desired, to be respected, to be needed, to be trusted, and sometimes, just to be held.

What Men Want: Tickets for the World Series."

~Dave Barry

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Guy-Talk: How to Handle a Woman

Ask her what she wants. Ask her frequently what she wants and then listen deeply, without defending yourself. This takes great intention and practice. Prepare yourself before you ask her what she wants. Be big-hearted and say, "Thanks for telling me."

Get really happy on your own. Don't be a whiner or complainer. Talk to your guy friends about work. Only talk to your woman about work once in a while. Do what it takes to be content, strong, capable, and proud.

Give her four to six times more than you think is reasonable. Say "Yes" to what she wants 95-98% of the time.

If she can't be the love of your life, then set her free so she can find someone who will do that. If you give her what she wants and she's still upset and not satisfied...set her free and go find a woman who will appreciate you.

Learn to give her maximum sexual pleasure by her definition. For many reasons, most women are afraid of pleasure. Try giving her non-reciprocal sex many times a month. (Recommended: Extended Massive Orgasm by Vera and Steve Bodansky)

Quit leading her, teaching her or correcting her. If she wants this, she'll go find someone to lead, teach or guide her. Don't be her Dad. Operate as if you're in the presence of a genius. Learn from her. Be open-hearted and say, "What do you want to teach me?"

Apologize to her for all the ways you've been a jerk. Make amends where needed.

Be completely trustworthy. Get home by 5:00 if you say you will. The game is "I am 100% reliable." No secrets. If you make a mistake, tell her. If she gets mad, absorb her anger and don't deflect it. Say "I'm sorry, I made a mistake." Then recommit to being reliable.

Go for a win-win or go her way. You can end the war between the sexes by going for the win-win. Act as if she's smarter. You've most likely been getting your way for a long time. Go her way for an experimental length of time (i.e., for a few years).

I recently got the chance to eavesdrop on a group of men who were intensely discussing ways to make women happy. The ideas I heard are straight talk from one guy to another.

Let’s face it...when she’s happy, peaceful, in love...life is wonderful. Even though some of these thoughts may seem over-the-top to you, I encourage you to try one or two ideas and see how the woman in your life responds.

Warmly,

P.S. Stay tuned for October’s feature...Girl Talk: How to Handle a Man.

Lee Sumner is a Certified Professional Coach who has successfully assisted hundreds of people in creating high-quality lives. She is President of No Limits Coaching and is a member of the International Coach Federation.

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